One of the biggest complaints that women have when dating is that there seem to be so few genuinely nice guys out there. And there are a lot of complaints from the other side of the camp as well, that women always seem to date jerks while ignoring the really good guys. We have all heard the phrase, “Nice Guys Finish Last,” but this is not necessarily true.
At Kelleher International, we help to connect individuals that have been unsuccessfully looking for love for so long, so we know that nice guys do exist. However, this type of man is often overshadowed by his unsavory peers who possess “bad boy” qualities that some women admire. Relationships with these types of guys almost always seem fine on the surface but deteriorate over time, leading the women involved to pine after the ideal image of a “nice guy.” If you are looking to have a fulfilling relationship with a genuinely good man, you need to avoid these five types of guys:
The “Afraid of Commitment” Guy
Otherwise known as the “non-committed” guy, he only wants to be with you on his own time. He may hesitate to talk about long-term plans or settling down, and he may often be accused of playing the field rather than committing to one person. While this guy may eventually decide to commit, if you are looking for a serious relationship, it is better to move on to someone who does not display such serious commitment issues.
The “Great the Way He is” Guy
This type of man tends to be adverse to change and compromise. He believes that his way is best and is unwilling to negotiate when it comes to even the simplest of things. Naturally, when you enter into a romantic relationship with someone, both people will have to adjust to being with one another. However, the problem with this guy is that he will expect you to do all the changing for him while he makes no effort to improve or work on his own flaws. He is not going to change, so it is better to get out of that relationship.
The “No Regrets” Guy
Do you ever feel like you are the only who apologizes in your relationship? This type of guy refuses to say sorry, even when he does something to hurt you. In contrast, the nice guy will take responsibility for his actions, express empathy when you feel down, and will always regret hurting you and try to make it right. If your man is unable to admit when he is wrong, this is a major red flag that should not be ignored.
The “Pointing Fingers” Guy
Similar to the “No Regrets” guy, this type will refuse to take responsibility for his actions and instead shift the blame to you. He is adept at toying with the emotions of his partner and making them feel like every problem is in some way their fault. By causing guilt-trips, this type of guy can seriously impact the well-being of his partner and should be avoided at all costs.
The “Overprotective” Guy
While many women are attracted to strength and control, this type of guy takes it too far by acting more like a parent or guardian than a significant other. He craves power and authority and is generally both controlling and condescending. This man can display behaviors as harmless as walking on the side closest to the street to protect you from the dangers of the road, to more alarming acts, such as controlling what you wear, eat or where you go. Remove yourself from that kind of relationship as soon as possible.
On the flip side, a “nice guy” displays many of the following traits:
- Humble, but not a pushover
- Kind, but not a doormat
- Caring, but not obsessive
- Strong, but not dominating
- Smart, but not condescending
- Protective, but not controlling
- Sensitive, but not whiny
- Wholesome, but not prudish
- Courageous, but not stupid
- Faithful, but not naive
- Grateful, but not for material things
- Organized, but not pedantic
- And more (we could go on all day)
For many, it may seem like this good guy does not exist. We assure you he does! Kelleher International was founded on the premise that there is a great match out there for everyone. If you are tired of looking for love and striking out, email or call us at (415)332-4111 today.