In this blog article, we take a question from a reader of our Newsletter, “Kelleher Connections”, and have our lead Relationship Coach at Kelleher, Julianne McGowan respond:
This months reader asks:
“I’m in a new relationship and this is our first Valentine’s Day together. I wanted to know how to handle it.“
From Julianne:
It’s common to feel unsure about how to handle “firsts” in a new relationship, as these milestones can often create unnecessary expectations. My advice is to focus on what feels comfortable for both of you based on where your relationship stands today.
Before deciding how to celebrate, I invite you to reflect on what Valentine’s Day means to each of you personally. Is it about feeling acknowledged, expressing romance, or simply sharing a moment of connection? Whether you choose a formal dinner or a low-pressure activity, the primary goal should be to celebrate one another and express gratitude for your connection. Use this time to learn more about each other’s values and your vision for the future.
Rather than aiming for perfection, view this first Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to stay present, communicate openly, and observe how you and your partner naturally express love and navigate expectations together.
